Sorry, it wasn't me

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Its rare for a man to read and then write what he read, crap am just playing around with words here.
It has been a minute and I felt that recent happenings need to be penned.
One year-plus ago like the man I am, I dated one of the most beautiful ladies I have met int his side of the Sahara.
She was graceful, humble. Generous, beautiful as expected and most importantly she had a great heart.
However things stopped being all rosy because of something we cannot write home about-i still cannot understand the reason why hearts stop moving.
Anyway it has taken me ages and now that steel has overcome hair, its right I state these reasons, and in the process say am not trying to win a fight i lost.
Men find the word sorry a very hard noun to use, even when its for their own good. However hen one 'grows up' they can see the essence of an apology (to make peace) because its all in long and short terms for the good of everybody.
So here are some of my pieces;
Pride. Apologizing can be particularly hard for men because it involves the admittance of fault. It’s hard to say that we messed up. That we were wrong. Our pride gets in the way.
Embarrassment. If we messed up royally, doing something truly boneheaded even though we knew better, it can be difficult to talk about it to the person we hurt or let down. We feel stupid and would rather pretend like it didn’t happen.
Anger. Things that need apologizing for are rarely a one way street (more on this later). We probably did something wrong, but the other person probably did too. And sometimes our anger over how they offended us is so great that we justify what we did and can’t get past it to apologize.
Humility. The reason we put up these walls is that we have an overinflated view of our true selves. We’re always right; we always have it together. But it ain’t true. We’re human. We mess up sometimes. You have to accept your imperfection as a part of life. Suppressing it will cut you off from others. Embracing it will allow you to grow as a man.



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